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We just learned that Rich's grandmother passed away today.

He's tearing himself up because he just had two days off and didn't go visit. He was planning to go next week (in fact, we had *just* discussed that when the call came). We're all trying to get him to ease up, and it seems to be working somewhat. It's been years since I had to go through this myself, and I *did* get to see my grandmother before she passed away.

I don't know what to say.

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[labellerose.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear this. My condolences to Rich and his family .

[asheris.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry.


What I can tell you, is that there's not much you can say... the guilt is going to be a part of his mourning.


I didn't go to see my grandma over the 4th one year because I had a migraine and didn't feel up to driving. She was in the hospital/nursing home recovering from knee replacement surgery, and was doing very well, I figured I could go down the next weekend or something. She died three days later, very unexpectedly.

It's been seven years now, and I still beat myself up about it sometimes. Time eases the guilt... but it hasn't gone away.

It's something that will stay with him. Remind him of the things he did do for her, and that she knows he wanted to see her. It might not feel like much, but it will mean a lot.